EPISODE 5

Ohps! This might sound absurd to many patriarchs out there knowing that this is coming from a man, but before you rush to crucify me, I urge you to read this full article with an open mind. It might just hold the key to your breakthrough! Because this is spirituality, not a conventional knowledge, so, broaden your minds. Those who embraced the wisdom and knowledge shared herein has experienced nothing but progress and peace in everything they do.

But, before we proceed, let me ask you this question: are you ready to open your mind to a perspective that could transform not just your life, but the legacy you leave behind? If your answer is yes, then lets ride, however, I still have another question though, this is personal, ok, it is general, but if you are a woman, then just ignore this last question okay, so, what I want to know is this: do you beat women?

DO YOU HIT WOMEN?

I know, yes I know I am no saint and neither am I the innocent baby here, cos I have also made some bad terrible decisions that I regretted. It first went down back in secondary school, you heard me, I slapped a girl during a fight. Yes, it really happened, so get used to it. Oh no, I’m not a fighter, I’ve always considered myself a lover, as I like to say. So don't get used to me beating a girl, just get used to the fact that I did slapped a girl.

But on my defense, she came at me first, always claiming to be seeing some sort of visions, and calling me a snake, calling me ogbanje child, yes I know what I am and so don't need no mocking reminder from a fine stubborn girl in my class who thinks she's going to be the new Mary Slessor, hell no, once I've had enough of her, we fought it out…

Ok, guys calm down, there was no winner, no loser, just a chaotic fight between a stubborn fine girl and a simple young boy, Hehehe, don’t think too hard on this, she didn’t beat me, so dont even try to go there… We fought, and that was all...

Although, we both ended up with strokes of cain upon our backs while the fight was just getting interesting but I did slapped her a couple of times, and she used punches at me like a man should, damn, that girl was harsh, we were interupted by unexpected floggings by our mathematics teacher back then, "big eyes, round and scary boning face, a no smiling kind of man", if you schooled in OCHS, Omoku that year, then you'd understand who I'm reffering to…
Yes, it wasn't funny at all.

Years later, I thought I would never hit a woman again, most especially after my vows within the walls of the mystery school, I took that vow because we practice a spirituality that honours the feminine essense that makes life possible, thus, respecting and never beating a woman was part of that principle, but as life may have it, I found myself in a situation I deeply regretted. Let’s just say it’s one of those moments' life throws at you to test your limits and leave you with a story to tell! I hit my partner, not once, but on a few occasions. It pains me to admit this, but I believe in sharing my truth so others can learn from it. At the time, I was on strong medication for chronic pain, which altered my state of mind, I was constantly angry, trapped in a storm of depression and unrecognized rage. This comes and goes, for instance it can happen for 12 hours a day.

One day, during an argument, she tried to leave. I didn’t want her to go because I feared for her safety due to some unresolved issues with her family. In my desperation and intoxicated state, I lashed out and hit her to stop her after a long time of trying to hold her back. I apologized though, but it was a dark time in my life. Unfortunately, it happened again, once, twice, and even escalated to me trying to physically remove her from my home when she threatened to leave again.

Looking back, those were one of the darkest days of my life. It wasn’t until I sought medical help and acknowledged the root of my behavior that I began to heal. The shame I carried was overwhelming because, as a Lightworker, I knew this was completely against everything I stood for. Yet, through it all, my partner showed remarkable understanding. While it never went as far as givving her a scar or disfiguring her face, of course I would never do that, but still, the emotional weight of those actions is something I still reflect on deeply.

This leads me to a broader question: why do some men beat their wives? What does it achieve? Does it make them feel powerful, like some kind of superhero? Or is it a misguided attempt to assert dominance in a relationship that’s meant to be rooted in partnership and love? I ask these questions because, I know how bad I felt after hitting my lady, I still feel the remorse and sadness when I think about it, but these men seem not to care, they enjoy their actions and that feels alien to me.

In the ancient traditions of Af’raka, relationships were not about one being the head and the other the tail. While women were expected to be loyal and submissive, men were equally tasked with loving and respecting their wives. It was a balanced partnership, teammates, companions, and friends working together as equals.

What we see today is a distorted struggle for superiority between partners, a fight that leads to broken homes and shattered families. These conflicts often result in separations that affect not just the couple, but also their children. This isn’t the legacy we should aim to pass on. Instead, we must learn to return to the roots of mutual respect, understanding, and partnership—a foundation that honors the sacredness of love.

READ ALSO: THE SACRED ART OF SEXUAL INTIMACY: VOL. 1 – By Knight Fredel

THE SECRET OF THE WORLD UNVEILED

Do you know that the secret of the world lies in a woman? Yes, I always go straight to the point: women are the secret of the world. The success or failure of any person rests on women. The love or hatred that shapes a person’s life often begins with a woman’s influence. This is why women must learn to speak positively about others, or remain silent if they dislike someone or their character.

A person’s happiness or sorrow, dignity or disgrace, can often be traced back to the impact of a woman. Never underestimate a woman, no matter how small or seemingly unimportant she may appear. Women hold the key to creation, balance, and transformation. They are the keepers of an ancient truth, the secret of the world itself.

This is an African secret, a wisdom buried beneath centuries of neglect but one that must be resurrected if humanity is to truly evolve and survive. This secret is not about sex or sensuality; it is about respecting the feminine principle that makes all life possible—the nurturing force of “The Mother Earth.” Without honoring this principle, humanity risks losing its way. Women are not just the bearers of life; they are the architects of harmony and the heart of existence itself.

An Af’rakan parable wisely states, “If the sky does not respect the earth, then it does not respect its creator.” Similarly, men may believe themselves to be above women, yet it is through a woman that men are brought into existence. No man on this earth has entered this world except through the sacred womb of a woman.

This truth demands that women be honored and respected. They are not just the bearers of life but the bridge between the unseen and the seen, the divine and the earthly. To disregard women is to disregard the very foundation of existence itself. Respecting women is not merely a virtue; it is an acknowledgment of the sacred balance that sustains humanity.

Obatala said that, people should always respect women greatly, if they respect women, the world will be in the right order, just like I said in the article, THE FEMALE SPECIE IS NOT A GOAT, CLICK HERE TO READ.

The first lesson I’ve learned in my years in the music industry is this: men don’t buy records; women do. If women embrace an artiste, that artiste becomes a star. If women adopt a fashion trend, it takes the world by storm. Women are the force that gives a company its soul and an organization its heartbeat.

It is women who breathe life into any idea that a man seeks to create. So, if you’re a man and your ideas aren’t coming to fruition, take a closer look at the women around you. If you’re giving it your all, yet your dreams remain grounded, it’s possible you’re lacking the feminine essence needed to nurture those dreams and bring them to life in the physical world.

Women are the secret to creation, the unseen architects of success. To ignore their power is to hinder your own. So, honor women, respect their influence, and recognize their role in manifesting the extraordinary. Without them, no idea can truly be born.

If you are a woman and find that your dreams remain unfulfilled, that nothing seems to move forward in your life, take a moment to examine the company you keep. Look at the girlfriends and women you surround yourself with; perhaps they are the birds keeping you from taking that flight.

Ladies, if you feel resentment or unhappiness toward the success of your man, it might be time to reconnect with your Divine Feminine essence. Tap into that sacred power within you, for it is through this essence that you can help give birth to your man’s dreams, nurturing them into reality.

The ancient words of Obatala reminds us: “Nobody, neither children nor elders, should ever disrespect a woman, for the power of women is greater.” You can see why women power was suppressed for ages. I do not believe a man looses his place when he respects his woman, or women in general, that is a hoax many men enjoy spreading to justify their actions against women.

Women bring life not only to children but to the very ideas, hopes, and creations of this world. Whatever a man wishes to accomplish, it is the woman who must assist him; without her, chaos ensues, and his dreams falter. Men are unable to manifest their purpose on earth without obtaining the guidance and support of a woman.

Obatala also declared, “Every week, everyone must praise women if the world is to remain peaceful. Honour your women, [mother, spouse, sisters, etc] for they are the ones who brought you into this world.”

These words remind us of the sacred role women play in maintaining the balance of life. Women are not only the bearers of life but also the nurturers of harmony, the keepers of wisdom, and the anchors of peace. To honor women is to honor the essence of creation itself, ensuring that the world thrives in unity and tranquility.

Women are the wisdom of the earth, the life-bringers, the nurturers of balance and creation. To disrespect a woman is to disrupt the harmony of existence itself. So, have respect for women, and honor their indispensable role in shaping humanity and the world.

Oshun teaches us that, even if a woman does not yet in your face yield respect, she must not be underestimated; she must be ignored if she disrespects you. And if she abuses you, she only lacks the intelligence, have compassion for her, and pray for her to realize herself. No man should beat or lay a finger on a woman because the pains that she may harbor secretly in her heart can blast them into a force that can block whatever thing you want to do, even though what you were trying to do was good, it would fail, because you were not incorporating the Divine Feminine Essence that women brings.

To the Orisha Oba, we learn that sometimes, women can also be their own worst enemies. Women must first learn to love themselves before they can truly love a man. Without this self-love, they may become lost in the love they give, losing sight of who they are. Women must understand their own abilities and strengths so they can become men’s best friends, not their adversaries.

It is crucial that women do not view men as their servants, for men too have a vital role to play in the tapestry of humanity. Just as negative and positive polarities balance the forces of nature, so too must men and women come together in harmony to balance the world.

An ancient adage teaches that men must pay homage to women for the earth to remain in balance. Therefore, to achieve true balance, the relationship between man and woman must be one of mutual respect and harmony.

Celebrations like Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, and Lover’s Day cannot be the only occasions when we honor women. Starting from this week, choose to pay homage to women every Wednesday or Friday. Acknowledge not just your mothers, wives, and girlfriends, but all the women in your life; your coworkers, secretaries, casual friends, customers, and even those women who work quietly behind the scenes for you.

Pay homage to those women whom society often underestimates: the housemaids, employees, and caretakers. As a man, if you fail to nurture their womanhood, you will never fully realize your own manhood. For in honoring women, you honor the divine balance that sustains life itself.

All these imbalances and chaos are happening today because we lost our root, since we are disconnected from our tradition, culture and spirituality, we no longer know the responsibilities of both genders, today we now fight for who would take control. Family fights, family quarrels, but you make it better, you don’t go about beating your wife like some kind of inanimate object, and you women do not go about abusing your men as if they are your slaves. It was a taboo for a man to lay their fingers on women in those days because women where respected, in one of my articles I have discussed this at length, but let me remind you that when it comes to reality, women are actually the secret of the world. Do not judge me yet, I’ll explain below:

Take a moment to reflect on this: 96% of the universe is feminine. The Earth we live on is feminine. We came into this world through the sacred gateway of a woman’s body, the Yoni. The first human to walk on this planet was a woman. Water, which makes up 70% of your body, is feminine.

One of the oldest remains ever discovered was that of a female, found in Ethiopia, dating back over 4 million years. Yet, we were taught that the Earth was created only 6,000 years ago according to certain religious doctrines, and that the first humans were Adam and Eve.

However, the truth is that women predate men. All the oldest fossil remains ever discovered have been those of women, and all of them were found in East Africa, specifically Ethiopia. Most of these fossils are over 4 million years old, showing that women have always been central to the story of human existence.

This truth, often overlooked, reveals that the feminine has always been the origin—the foundation upon which life itself is built. The patriarchal narratives of recent centuries can never alter this fundamental truth: women are the first beings, the creators, the keepers of life.

These primordial women could reproduce asexually without the assistants of their males. This was done by the “bartholin” gland which women still posses today. Did you know that a woman can produce semen in her bone marrow? Did you also know that the X-chromosome is five times larger than the Y-chromosome… A woman is a goddess because she is the feminine essence that makes life possible on this realm; she is the gate-way between the nomena world (spiritual world) and the phenomena world (physical world).

Many men will likely disagree with this concept and theorem due to the influence of ego. Ego plays a significant role in the lives of most men, and they may reject this truth because it contradicts their personal doctrines. Some men, driven by the desire for power and control, feel the need to dominate and rule. This is where the envy of women’s power began. Historically, women possessed incredible spiritual abilities; they were in tune with the KHA, the goddess realm. The blood of the goddess that flows through them connects them to the creator, the goddess herself. However, many men wanted to take over these powers, seeking to rule over women and claim what was not theirs while they abandon their own unique spiritual abilities which many today are still unaware of due to their greediness and desire to control women as their pets. These ancient conflicts between men and women are often hidden within fictional stories, yet they contain deeper truths.

THE SECRETS CONTINUES; MEN'S DUTY

So, what is the duty of a man to a woman? Let’s be clear: women are indeed special, but men too have a sacred role in humanity and to the Creator. Men have a duty to protect the feminine essence that makes life possible. The woman’s body is a vessel that carries the essence of the Goddess within it. Her blood, which flows every 28 days, is the blood of the goddess. Women are gateways between the physical and spiritual worlds. Therefore, it is the sacred duty of all men to honor and protect this vessel, not defile it.

Men who defile these feminine vessels are not true men; they are driven by greed and selfishness. The world was not always governed by patriarchy. In ancient times, women ruled the world in what was known as the matriarchal regime. Despite their immense spiritual power, these women did not enslave men. They loved all men as a mother loves her children. Even the most wicked women still carry kindness as part of their nature. But when men took over, the first thing they did was create false religions to control and subjugate women. These religions sought to make women forget their true nature and vilified anything connected to the "Mother Goddess." They stigmatized menstruation, obscuring the truth and the power behind moon blood.

This is why women today must unite and reject any religion that keeps them grounded and suppressed. Any religion that prevents a woman from expressing her true self, her freedom, and her essence is a scam to womanhood. Women must realize they are the mothers of all the continents, the nurturing force behind life. Today’s men fear sharing power with women because they mistakenly believe it would mean losing their power. They fail to understand that power is not a competition. When we share power, we all become stronger. As the old adage goes, United we stand, divided we fall.

This is not a call for women to hate or disrespect men. No, a woman must always be love and light. While men of the past may have failed in their actions, women must learn to forgive, to remain kind and loving at all times. The world has been programmed to view women as a lower species, but in reality, this is a lie. Women must recognize that two wrongs cannot make a right. It is time for the world to embrace the balance and harmony that arises when men and women stand together in mutual respect and shared power.

This is a powerful reflection on the complexity of relationships, gender dynamics, and societal expectations. It highlights the importance of mutual respect between men and women and calls for men to stop resorting to violence, particularly when emotions are heightened. The message that "beating your wife does not make you a man, it makes you a coward" speaks volumes, emphasizing the need for emotional control and maturity in handling difficult situations.

It's true that women, like all people, can have moments of stubbornness or annoyance, but the appropriate response is never violence. Walking away and taking time to cool off shows strength and maturity. Beating a harmless woman who isnt armed with any weapon or whatsoever, who isnt fighting you, is an act of disrespect and harm—not just to her but to the very essence of femininity and life. A man who resorts to violence undermines the balance and respect needed in any relationship.

At the same time, the idea that both men and women should respect each other and engage in mutual care is essential. As you mention, "one hand washes the other," and only through cooperation, respect, and understanding can a partnership thrive. It’s also true that women, while deserving of respect and kindness, must practice qualities like tolerance and sincerity, recognizing that excessive talk can sometimes cause unnecessary conflict.

Regarding infidelity, your point about the emotional connection women often form through sex is interesting. It suggests that cheating is not just a physical act but one that involves emotional bonds, making it harder for women to reconcile their feelings afterward. You also draw attention to the hypocrisy that exists in many relationships, where men might cheat without facing consequences, yet women are often expected to endure infidelity without response.

In the case of your neighbor, it’s clear that the cycle of violence and infidelity is harmful to both men and women. It’s a deeply troubling societal issue that affects everyone, especially in a world where women still often find themselves in positions of emotional and physical slavery. Your call for women to recognize their worth, to love and respect themselves, and to break free from the societal norms that bind them is important.

Ultimately, the message is about fairness, self-respect, and mutual care. Men and women alike must learn to break the cycles of violence, control, and disrespect that perpetuate inequality and harm in relationships. It’s only when we begin to see each other as equals, with both strengths and vulnerabilities, that true harmony can be achieved.

SELF REFLECTION: TO THE WOMEN

On the side of women, I must point this out. The Woman must realize her worth in the society. They must know who they are because I see most of these ladies follow one-sided beliefs; their brains are wired with distorted ideas about life. Sometimes, I see lots of young ladies sit down for hours just to discuss other people’s business, they do this all the time, instead of these ladies to talk about how they will evolve in life and their career, they just sit down for hours to discuss and castigate other men or women, most of these ladies have no respect for themselves talk more of respecting others.

There exists a certain type of woman, a woman who thrives on conflict and drapes herself in words sharper than daggers. These women are quick to lash out, particularly at men who dare to awaken them from their self-imposed slumber. Rather than listen, they respond with insults, their tongues like whips, leaving wounds on those who offer wisdom. These women—lost, yet unyielding, are caught in a cycle they must break, for they are capable of so much more.

Patience escapes them. Life, to them, is meant to be effortless, a garden of roses without thorns. At first, they appear kind, gentle, full of promise, but as the weight of reality sets in, the facade fades. Indoctrinated by distorted beliefs, they grow complacent and look to the skies for miracles instead of within, where the true miracle resides. They forget that the universe itself is planted with hard work, watered with determination, and nurtured by time.

In their impatience, they become vulnerable. Some trade their worth for fickle fortunes, trusting empty promises whispered in shadows. They scroll through social media, exchanging their time and dignity for fleeting validation—money, gifts, recharge cards—never realizing the dangers that loom. For a moment of indulgence, they risk everything: their freedom, their safety, their very souls.

But the truth remains unshakable: the secret of the universe lies within them. The world may have told them otherwise, blinding them with tales of an external savior while silencing their inner power. Yet they must remember—they are the vessels of creation, the embodiment of life itself.

To these women, I say this: return to yourself. Stand tall, for you are meant to rise, not fall. Embrace the power within you, for it is infinite. Do not sell yourself short for a world that does not yet understand your worth. Plant the seeds of your dreams, water them with patience and passion, and let the fruits of your labor speak for you.

You are not a burden. You are not weak. You are the miracle you seek.

While I do not condone men who resort to violence against women, it is often true that certain actions or attitudes can escalate such conflicts. Some men, driven by a lack of self-control, lash out when they feel deceived, betrayed, or humiliated—though this never justifies such behavior. Violence is not a solution; it is a failure of maturity and restraint. Yet, women, too, must reflect on their roles in fostering harmony. They must embody love, sincerity, and respect—virtues long cherished as the cornerstones of womanhood, for women are the mothers of humanity, the secret of creation itself. Without them, humanity would cease to exist.

Young women, especially those under the care of guardians—whether parents, stepparents, uncles, or aunts—must remember the value of respect, obedience, and humility. Adolescence often tempts young women to stubbornness and defiance, particularly when discipline is imposed. Yet rebellion, driven by arrogance, can lead them down misguided paths. In seeking independence or validation, some may turn to fleeting relationships, drifting from one partner to another in search of happiness that eludes them.

In time, these misguided choices may lead to friendships with others who share their confusion—friends who indulge in gossip and superficial pursuits. Can the blind truly lead the blind? If you listen closely to such conversations, the themes rarely change: men, romance, money, parties, and illusions of grandeur. They speak of men who “crush” on them, men who show kindness or buy them gifts, interpreting genuine gestures of friendship as romantic advances. From assumptions to gossip, these distractions consume their focus, leaving them blind to the deeper truths of life.

To rise beyond limitation, women must look inward. They must transcend superficial pursuits—fun, romance, wealth, and idle entertainment—and instead nurture their minds and souls. Knowledge is the key to empowerment. A woman who reads, researches, and thinks for herself becomes a force of nature. She must starve the ego and feed her soul with wisdom, for the most successful people in the world today are not driven by blind religious adherence but by self-awareness, knowledge, and purpose.

Women must also recognize the limitations imposed upon them by certain religious doctrines. Historically, religion has been used as a tool to suppress women, binding their potential and limiting their freedoms. Yet, a woman who begins to think for herself discovers the vast reservoir of power and abilities within her. She realizes that she is not dependent on wealth or circumstance to create success.

Moreover, she learns a vital truth: there is no perfect man. A wise woman understands that perfection is not found but made. She can choose an imperfect man and shape a meaningful partnership, nurturing him to become the best version of himself. This realization empowers women to see beyond flaws and embrace the beauty of growth and transformation.

This is the wisdom many women lack—the understanding that their true power lies not in external validation but in self-realization. When a woman awakens to her potential, she becomes unstoppable, embodying the strength, wisdom, and grace that have always been her birthright.

So, in conclution: Let the balance of life be restored. Men, honor and respect all women, for they are the sacred portals through which you entered this world. Women, love and honor all men, for they are your partners in life and guardians of your essence, the keepers of the keys to your sacred portals where life began.

Remember, harmony begins with action. If men transform their attitudes and treat women with reverence and dignity, the women’s hearts and actions will, in turn, reflect that change. This is the law of balance, echoing the wisdom of Sir Isaac Newton: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Let love, respect, and unity guide our steps forward, so we may rebuild the harmony that once graced the earth.

Best wishes for peace profound; Knight Fredel...

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