EPISODE 86

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INTRODUCTION

The masculine gender, in his ever-striving journey towards perfection through the various aspects of life has reached a stage where he needs to contemplate his choices and decisions on how he treats his counterpart, the woman when it comes to relationships and marriages.

Does he treat her as equal, or as inferior to himself, or does he see her as a commodity, a product for his pleasures and leisure's, like a sex toy or a house maid who is there to take care of his home, and children, make him meals, then give him a cool round of sex every day and anytime he needs it? Who is a woman to you as a man?

Man needs to understand that the woman is his partner and not created to satisfy his sexual desires, for sex is an exchange of energy, he gives her, and she gives him. Just as he is attracted towards her, so is she attracted towards him too, this means that she as a woman also enjoys sex, just like every other man does, thus, no gender is superior or inferior to the other.

Every gender deserves an equal right, and an equal respect, the time of living a lie just to feed your ego has passed, if truly you are awakened and if truly your Dibia's or spiritual figures are truly Spiritual, then they must understand this concept and teach that a man is not physically superior or inferior to a woman. So, if a man says he can marry more than one wife, then a woman also has that right, and that is why polyandry is brought to light, but no, not today, we will talk about that next time.

Although, unfortunately, most women are not that ambitious to have men within their possession just as men do to them in the name of polygamy. Some say it's because the religions in this region do not support polyandria, but the question is... Does the religion in "this region" support polygamy? Yes, some, and no, it doesn't, yet men who are deep Christians do marry more than one wife.

Now this is the part where some persons will say it's all about choice, and others will say men are polygamous in nature, and that is why I wrote this article to explain some facts about polygamy, the old ancient facts about its purpose and why it was created in the first place, and how it is being used today, then turn back to you ask the question again; are men truly polygamous in nature, or is there something else?

Okay, why do I stress this? 

Polygamy wasn't always what you know it to be today, it began from a pure and innocent state which was created as a form of idea to be used to solve pending problems in the society, problems that could cause the extinction of one gender, like when the woman child is much more plenty than the men, in such cases polygamy was the savior of the day, and when the man child is plenty than the women, causing a fast extinction of the male gender, in such a situation polyandria was consulted.

Then, in other cases where people were unable to get a child for their family, when they are unable to bring an heir through childbirth to continue their lineage, somehow polygamy was the best idea in such a situation. There are few other useful reasons which will be mentioned in the third chapter/subtopic herein.

If you can fast rewind to somewhere around the 15th century, then gradually fast forward through the 16th, 17th 18th, 19th, 20th and currently to this present century, you will find many historical places within the African Kingdom, there you would witness how the black man abused and misused the system of polygamy which was actually created as a solution to certain issues facing the African race as already stated…

So, what do I know that these modern men don't know about? And what are the disadvantages of unnecessarily creating unplanned polygamous families, how does it affect the society, and how does it affect the planet earth?

They of course do not know the impact of polygamy in the society, the disadvantages of polygamy and how it supports global warming + climate changes, oh do not shout yet, I know some of you do not know this and so you would be wondering how. I will tell you at the right page.

This and much more information will be presented to you on this edition of Awake Afraka Magazine today, however, at the end of the day, you as always will make the final call after reading through.

PLEASE TAKE NOTE:

Whenever I speak, or write on anything related to the word "gender" in any of my posts and articles, please know that, I am NOT referring to the new age gender status trending nowadays such as the LGBT+ whatever, to me such a manmade ideology does not in anyway express the core significance and definition of the word "gender" in accordance with the the natural and universal principle of balance. But, this notice does not mean we do not tolerate whoever chooses to be gay, that's not up to us to decide for you. It is your choice to decide what gender you want to be associated with.

However, since this is a magazine publication based on Pure Spirituality, which is African most advanced and oldest spiritual practice presented herein to offer the general public with spiritual awakening, religious expositions, and romance (in respect to spiritual principles), therefore, we will not be supporting anything related with LGBT+.

LGBT community has no Spiritual foundation, therefore, as long as it is Awake Afraka Magazine, and its related groups, we only recognize a man and a woman, just as I have said earlier, this notice does not mean we do not tolerate whoever chooses to be gay, that's not up to us to decide for you. It is your choice to decide what gender you want to be associated with.

So, if you are a woman who is attracted to a woman, that obviously makes you a gay, and it also means that in the outside world you are a lesbian, but here we still recognize you as a woman because that's who you are by nature. If you are a man and you feel like a woman and at the same time attracted to your fellow man, or not, then you are a gay, a homosexual, but, nonetheless (to us) you are still under the masculine gender.

Okay, I guess that is well informed and cleared, so, moving on:

STRAIGHT TO THE MATTER

A lot has happened in our world lately, from the past centuries to the present day, we have seen and heard stories of enslavement of the woman child by the men of those eras. I mean, parents would bear children, and once they see it's a girl child, they would throw her away, or drop them by the road.

A similar event occurred around the 20th century, it was about a man whose name was Rohit Yadav, he was said to have dropped his 20-day old newborn daughter in the bush for her to die of starvation or eaten by a wild animal. During his confession, he claimed that the baby girl was of no use since she wasn't a boy, he was angry because that was the second daughter his wife was giving him, and all he really wanted was a male child, so he abandoned his 20-day-old daughter in a patch of bushes near an under-construction jail on the Indore-Ujjain Road. Unfortunately for him some family members reported the missing infant, and Yadav was questioned by the police, after much interrogation, he couldn't help it so he confessed to the crime. See full story here.

The infant was rescued and reunited with the family. This heartbreaking incident underscores the harmful impact of gender bias and the immense value of every child, regardless of their gender. Such tragedies serve as a reminder of the past deeds against the woman child and how they were disregarded and only accepted as a property for sex and childbirth, however, in this modern day there is need for compassion, education, and support to prevent such acts in the present and future.

As at the 20th, 19th, 18th and even the 15th centuries men were marrying as many women as possible to demonstrate their financial capabilities, and how strong they are as they handle many women squarely, however, long before then when our ancestors lived, polygamy was used primarily as a tool to solve societal and fertility problems. That was the very essence of polygamy, the purpose of its creation; although in our world today, that purpose is lost as women are being abused in every moment of the day in the name of religious laws and traditional marriages.

Historically, women have been enslaved and bought as products to be possessed by men, they buy them as they would buy a cow for its milk and a dog for its company. In this modern age, such a system is said to be abolished as no one has the right to own or buy another human. I will, however, tell you at this point that; buying and selling or possessing of women as commodities has never been abolished, but rather has transformed from its popular state into a more acceptable and upgraded one, which is, of course, difficult to discern, especially when everyone considers it to be normal nowadays.

As we may already know, some of the things we consider bad to our environment and health may have been created for good sometime before now, but all it needed in order to turn into that bad thing we currently know it to be was to fall into the hands of one psychopath who will use it for the wrong purpose, and that alone can change a perfect lifesaving tool into a destructive device. That is the sad story of polygamy...

Currently, there has been a lot of misunderstanding regarding issues concerning polygamy as it relates to marriages, particularly in Africa. Due to the spiritual knowledge I have acquired on human beings in general, (how they think, react and behave), I have come to realize that there are many African men out there who appear to know the truth about this whole issue I am discussing here today, but will choose to justify polygamy because they themselves are walking towards the path to marrying more than one or more wives at the same time all to satisfy their sexual urges, or because they cannot keep up with one woman, or to show off how manly they are to those who care to watch and hail them.

In their hearts, they know not how detrimental such unnerving polygamous marriages can be to the world in general. For example, overpopulation is mostly caused by many polygamous marriages like those in which a man would marry 10 wives and give birth to more than 35 children, which is just from one man alone. If 20 men each have 7 wives, we can calculate the total number of couples:

{Number of couples} = 20 \times 7 = 140 ]

Now, let’s consider the children. Each couple has between 6 to 9 children. To find the total number of children, we’ll take the average of the minimum and maximum:

{Average children per couple} = 6 or 9 X 140 = 840 or 1260]

Finally, we can calculate the total number of children:

Therefore, there are 840 children if couples have at least 6 children each, or 1260 if each couples have an average of 9 children.

Now, instead of speaking up, those who know the truth would seal their lips, they would choose to hold back because that very thing is something they are somehow going to partake in, if not already, therefore, without proper consideration, they would justify the act to make it appear okay and normal for a man to marry more than one wife, forgetting that when the population exceeds a particular limit, the planet surfers.

The global population indeed has an impact on global warming. Let’s explore the connections:

1. Population Growth and Emissions:
   • As the population grows, so does the demand for resources. Increased consumption tends to raise emissions of greenhouse gases (such as carbon dioxide, methane, and nitrous oxide) that contribute to global warming.
   • Rapid population growth puts additional strain on resources and exacerbates the impacts of climate change.
   • More people mean more demand for fossil fuels (oil, gas, coal), which release carbon dioxide when burned, trapping heat in the atmosphere like a greenhouse.
2. Disproportionate Impact:
   • The richest 10% of the world’s population contributes 50% of annual global warming emissions. Unfortunately, the impacts of climate change disproportionately affect populations that have contributed the least to the problem
3. Mitigation Strategies:
   • Including population dynamics in climate change education and advocacy is crucial.
   • Improving access to reproductive health care, family planning options, girls’ education, and gender equity are essential climate mitigation strategies.
   • Investments in health, education, infrastructure, and land use can enhance climate resilience and adaptive capacity globally

Now, understanding the relationship between polygamous marriages, population growth and climate change is vital for addressing the world’s climate crisis, and yes, polygamy isn't the only reason, the industries are too, however, more population like I just stated above, means more need to produce more gas, fuels, and more.

Certainly! Here are specific ways to address population growth at different levels:

1. Individual Level:
   • Have fewer children: Consider having one child or a maximum of two. Read more about this approach here.
   • Adoption: Explore adoption as an alternative to biological children.
   • Educate yourself: Learn about population issues and their impact.
   • Reduce personal consumption: Adopt a vegan lifestyle, limit air travel, and share resources within your household.
   • Sex education: Educate teenagers about sex and contraception without taboos.
   • Spread awareness: Share your knowledge about overpopulation on social media.
   • Support family planning programs: Donate to organizations like International Planned Parenthood or FP2020.
2. Community Level:
   • Join environmental groups: Encourage them to address population issues.
   • Advocate through media: Write opinion pieces for local newspapers and request more reporting on population matters.
   • Growth management: Municipalities should set boundaries to discourage urban sprawl.
   • Nature preservation: Towns and cities can purchase surrounding lands for nature preserves and open spaces.
3. National Level:
   • In high-fertility developing countries:
     • Fund family planning programs: Generously support initiatives that provide access to contraception.
     • Improve health care: Reduce infant and child mortality.
     • Address child marriage: Raise the legal age of marriage to 18 years.

With the data presented above, you can guess exactly where I am going to, some men would support and give reasons to why you should embrace polygamy, but their support isn't coming from their actual consciousness but from their subconscious mind, they have decided to make it appear good because they are already guilty of such course, or they are looking forward to having multiple wives in a time soon to come because they are obsessed with having sexual exchange with multiple ladies, but the question is why?

Let's get back a bit, in those days' polygamy was a useful tool for problem solving in the various areas of our life (As stated in the next chapter), but today it has moved from the state of being the solution to the problem into being the problem itself.

Today, it is claimed by some men that, men are polygamous in the nature meaning that every man is polygamous in nature, meanwhile, I, on the other hand has done some close research and experimentation on this subject from a spiritual level, to the physical, and I found something much more different from their claims.

I am on the verdicts that men are not polygamous in nature, it is man who choose to create polygamy either as a means to solve some engraving problems at their family level, or at a national level, whichever way, if the man's purpose for marrying more than one wife has nothing to do with show off, or sexual indiscipline, then such man is doing it right just as our ancestors would have wanted. This is because the ancient ones created polygamy for a reason, which I will now present to you below, and that reason for polygamy is the very thing we are lacking in this our current timeline, and era.

POLYGAMY EXPLAINED

Polygamy, the practice of having multiple wives, has been observed in various cultures and historical contexts. While the reasons for practicing polygamy today are completely lost from the minds of our modern men, some tend to go into polygamy because they believe it is in their nature, which is not true, no man was born polygamous.

Then here's to the modern polygamous men who try to hide under the shades of “it's their nature”, and who try to compare themselves to a dog who according to them has multiple partners, creating comparisons between themselves and the animals of the bush and forests thus trying to justify themselves, they need to know that it is their obsession that took them there, or, their inability to stick with one woman after marriage or even during engagement, that is the true reason to why some men such as themselves end up with two or more women.

The difference between the animal kingdom and that of the humans are very obvious, if those animals should be given the same consciousness as man, I mean like the ability to be responsible and moderate in their activities, to learn to not stick their d**ks in any hole they see and end up producing random offsprings, I don't think any animal with such level of understanding will want to procreate the way they do, because to get this straight, animals currently don't keep partners to begin with, they just mate as they go, that's all.

So, comparing yourselves with animals just to justify your obsessions and desire for polygamy is something I cannot really get straight, I mean why should anyone even do that.

Okay, look at it this way; men tends to cheat on their wives after she puts to birth, most times he would patiently stick with her after the first child is born, but then the moment the second child is born they start cheating, this is men who cannot discipline their sexuality for once, after such pregnancies and births, the woman begins to face certain issues with their vagina getting much wider than usual, the blood and other fluids that flows out of it during the first or second week after birth, these things and many other body complications like loss of shapes caused during the pregnancy and many others, all adds up to why they start feeling disgust and because of that they prefer to seek for sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

Now, when they go out or cheat on their wife with another woman who happens to be some sort of ambitious and gold digger, in such an event, she would push the man into taking her in as a second wife, and if the man refuses, she would not mind get pregnant for him in whichever way possible, even if it means getting another man into impregnating her then lying that the pregnancy is his, all just to have something tangible to hold him with, and when she succeeds, the man becomes so weak that he eventually succumbs to her will, especially when her sexual nature is superb, yes women with a powerful sexual enchantment tends to bend their men to their will, some even go as far as using Voodoo in addition.

There you can clearly see the bigger picture, that is how most men become polygamous in this modern world. So, when you go to men in that category to ask them why they choose to marry two, they always have a backup quote from the bible, that is if he is religious, or, he would dismiss the discussion with the slogan: men are polygamous in nature. The truth as it is will always be “nah”, for men are not polygamous in nature, there are reasons to why polygamous marriage was created by our ancestors, and 99% of the reasons were to serve as a problem solver in the society, it was never a thing for leisure, or a sign of riches as men of today would do to raise their ego's into the air, to make people see them as powerful and strong.

Anyway, before we go further, here are some common motivations which inspired our Ancestors in the creation of polygamy in Africa:

1. Social and Economic Factors:
   • Population imbalances: In societies where there is a significant gender imbalance (more women than men), polygamy may be practiced ensuring that women have a chance to marry, vice versa.
   • Economic stability: Having multiple spouses can provide economic support. For instance, in agricultural communities, more family members mean more labor for farming.
   • Wealth distribution: Polygamy allows the consolidation of wealth within a family. A wealthy man can support multiple wives and their children.
2. Fertility and Reproductive Considerations:
   • Desire for many offspring: In some cultures, having a large number of children is valued. Polygamy increases the chances of having more children.
   • Infertility: If one spouse is unable to conceive, polygamy provides an alternative route to having children.
3. Social Security and Care Networks:
   • Social safety net: Having multiple spouses can create a strong support network. Wives can care for each other and share responsibilities.
   • Ageing and caregiving: As people age, having multiple spouses can ensure that there are caregivers available.
4. Political and Diplomatic Alliances:
   • Dynastic marriages: In royal families or noble circles, polygamy was used strategically to form alliances between different groups.
   • Tribal or clan unity: Marrying into other tribes or clans through polygamy can strengthen social bonds. How about situations when two countries or kingdoms are at war with each other, and the only way to bring unity is by having this marriage between the two kingdoms. For example: if a man is in a position where he can stop the enmity between their kingdom and that of another, in order to stop a never-ending war, all by just picking a wife from the other kingdom, then he would, like a prince from kingdom A, marrying the princess of Kingdom B who has been at war with Kingdom A for so long, by bringing the two kingdom together in matrimony, the enmity is settled.
5. Personal Preferences and Love:
   • Affection and companionship: Some individuals genuinely love and care for multiple partners. Emotional connections can drive polygamous relationships.
6. Historical and Colonial Influences:
   • Colonial legacy: European colonial powers often imposed their views on marriage and family structures. Some African societies adopted polygamy as a form of resistance or cultural preservation.

Remember that the reasons for practicing polygamy are multi-layered, and individual motivations can vary widely. It’s essential to recognize that cultural context, personal beliefs, and historical factors all play a role in shaping these practices, especially religion.

Religion was another reason why men adopted polygamy, this came much later when foreign religious movements invaded Africa to impose their belief on everyone, as time went on, other doctrines were passed out from the other, churches broke out of the former, and gradually religious views began to differ from the other, therefore some men began to marry more than one wife, in most cases they do this not because they want to but because their religion states that a man must marry more than one wife, and the women must submit to their husbands whether they like it or not because their interests and ambitions do not matter.

Such religious principles makes it seem like women are nothing more than sex objects or house wives to these men, for instance, some of these religious people were motivated through their religious books, like those from the old testament of the Christian bible, they follow the mentorship of some of their highly regarded biblical characters such as King David and King Solomon, same to the Totah of the Jewish religion, and that of the Islamic religion.

POLYGAMY TODAY

In our world today, the matters that motivates men into polygamous marriages are the things that shouldn't, their reasons to why they have decided to marry more wives are not recognized because they are nothing more than issues that should never be addressed because they are bad habits, they are not a reason to justify their polygamous obsession, yes you got that right, I purposely wrote that “obsession” instead of “nature”, no it isn't their nature.

Look at these three major unacceptable reasons they usually give:

1. They marry more than one woman because they want to display that as a sign of wealth, to show off to whoever cares to see that they are capable of marrying more than one woman, to show how strong and wealthy they are.
2. Their inability to resolve issues with their partners often lead them into the bed of another woman in order to relieve themselves of the burdens of marriage, unfortunately in some cases, the woman they usually use to cheat on their wife gets pregnant and when that happens, she would sometimes refuse to remove it, she would make her move to enchant and confuse him into marrying her, and eventually as the situations normally turns out, she would end up as the second wife.
3. Then, number three we have religion: Due to some religious decrees, some men tend to marry more wives in order to fulfil their religious obligations as a man (according to the religion in question).

Now, let's get to the real deal, let us analyze this situation again. I have talked about it just now but let us just check it through in order to point something out.

So, some of these polygamous men have a sweet wife and cute kids at home, yet they are so quick to jump into polygamy, most of whom never planned for it, the problem is, some of these men were unable to tolerate their wives when she acts up, and their next point of escape is cheating and paying less attention to her, that never solves the problem you know.

They just keep escaping to their mistress to avoid more misunderstanding and by continuously parking up many unresolved issues with their wife. But suddenly, when their mistress or side chick becomes ambitious and decides to enforce their will upon them to take her in as a second wife, then a more bigger problem happens, well, they will always do, and there we have it, a new wife in the family already pregnant for a child, and the first wife is there with her kids, and probably pregnant with another child too, so it is all set, it is finally a polygamous marriage.

Now, when they are asked to explain why they went into polygamy, as to marry another woman because clearly the first wife is a no problem woman, and she has given him a boy, and a girl, so, in order to know what happened, people, friends and family will ask, and their answer is always their old quote which says that MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS IN NATURE.

If you properly study this situation as explained above, then it will become very clear to you that; In our modern world today men from various African races supports polygamy only to justify their cheating behaviors, nothing more, and yes, not because they are polygamous in nature, or anything close to that, they are just unable to control themselves, they are unable to learn how to live with a lady, knowing that they cannot control her totally and sometimes they need to listen to her because she is a human being too, sometimes they need to tolerate certain actions from her, and also discipline their sexual urges whenever they go out there after a fight with their wife in order to avoid seeing someone else who may (at that moment) appear better and more sweeter than their wife.

Once two people are married or, in a serious affair, like courtship, they are no longer two different people, instead they learn to work together as a single organism.

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Truth be told, marriage is never a walk in the park, it isn’t the usual dating, it is more than that, before you go into one, you must first be ready for anything, you must learn to tolerate your spouse's religion, choice of fashion, her hobbies must be your hobby too, you must learn as a man to deeply resolve any misunderstanding immediately, do not wait for the next day, make her your best friend.

Sometimes you need to forget about who is right or wrong when it comes to your marriage, just agree and resolve, stop discussing your wife with your friends at the beer parlor, nothing good comes out of the mouth of drunk friends especially when they are players, go home and talk about it with her, learn to communicate with each other.

Some women will shout, nag and others will cry, that is their various ways of expressing how sorry they are, you need to understand these things in order to have a longer/lasting relationship with the woman you claim to love.

If anything should separate two, let it not be because you cannot tolerate her, or because you cheated or brought in another woman, show her that her ideas and contributions also counts, listen more, talk less, unless she isn't the talking type, nevertheless when she begins to speak, let her speak with no interruptions, ask yourself, why did she bring this idea, what influenced it, why did she choose this topic, it could be because of some past traumas, or events, it could be because of something she doesn't know how to explain or fix the words, do not rush into rejection or make her feel like what she is saying is nonsense, remember that your nonsense can make sense to another. We all make mistakes, even though I am not perfect, but I am trying.

So, quickly running into the arms of another woman is not always the solution to every marital issues, there are ways to communicate within your relationship, learn to communicate more like I said above, and learn to be fond of each other, if you don't, you will end up marrying the whole community and you will still realize that women are the same, their difference is their look, and background, but that thing which makes them women, is all the same everywhere.

Let us embrace the truth, and it will set us free, and that truth here is that men are not polygamous in nature, look at it this way, there is no gender on earth who isn't capable of being attracted to more than one person at a time, however, if a person in a relationship meets another person outside their relationship and they feel that likeness and attraction towards that new person they met outside of their relationship, at such point he or she must apply decency and discipline in order to control the situation and not end up cheating on their partner.

Most women in a relationship cheat as much as men does, so why haven't the society given women the opportunity to practice polyandry (a situation whereby a woman can marry more than one man), because if we claim that men are polygamy in nature just because they are unable to stay satisfied by one woman, then it means women are polygamous in nature too.

Each of us in a relationship must discipline ourselves not just because we do not want to hurt our partner, but because we are doing the right thing, to be contented with what we have, because there will always be someone or something out there which will always appear to be better than the one you currently have.

There have been many cheating husbands nowadays, the only thing they could do to excuse their wrong behavior was the claim that men are polygamous in nature, thus, with such lines, their partner would have nothing else to say.

As I am dropping this bomb today, it is go'n explode and not everyone will like it, most especially the young and unmarried cheating men who justifies themselves by claiming they are polygamous in nature, but nevertheless, I'll still drop it anyway

Look at my previous post on my Facebook page, it says: 

“Just because our forefathers did something like that doesn't make it right, in the days of our ancestors only few men married more than one wife, their reasons were genuine and honest, they choose to marry more than one because they needed a male child to continue the lineage of the family, they do this when their first wife is unable to conceive, so they get another wife to help solve the problem, and if the second wife only gave birth to girls, they will again get a third wife. Even so, they still loved, respected and cherished their first wife no matter what happened because the second and third wives weren't married out of love, or fun, they were married out of necessity which they themselves knew”.

Men are not polygamous by nature, and polygamy wasn't a culture either, today some bloggers posts and shares articles claiming that polygamy was a way of life by the African Ancestors, but that is not true, polygamy was never a part of the African tradition and culture, instead it was something any man could turn to whenever they find the need, it was something the community or kingdom would request of their indigenes when they wish to correct an extinction problem in their society, and they do not enforce it on the people, they request for cooperation from the men to please pick more wives in order to help preserve the woman child, (that is if the number of men are drastically getting down and almost going extinct). 

So, it polygamy isn't and was never a culture, besides, if it were a culture, then it means that every man in those days was raised to believe that they have to marry more than one woman to fulfil their cultural, religious and traditional demands. But was it so? No!

There is so much this generation doesn't know. Ego has fueled a lot of men who think that because they have money therefore, they can marry as many women as they want as if women are leisure products to be bought for usage, and when it wears out you drop them and get another one, unknowingly, and sometimes knowingly forcing their previous wife (or wives) into serious emotional breakdown and depression.

Let us look at 5 of our well-known African icons and their messages on the subject matter today. These prominent figures have expressed their views on polygamy, although they did not directly mention polygamy in clear terms, but some of their ideas on gender equality proves that they were not interested in anything that would make one gender appear lower than the other.

Let’s delve into some of their notable opinions:

1. Archbishop Desmond Tutu: The revered South African Anglican bishop and social rights activist has been vocal about the need for gender equality. While he hasn’t explicitly condemned polygamy, his advocacy for justice and human rights aligns with a critique of practices that may perpetuate inequality.
2. Chinua Achebe: The acclaimed Nigerian writer and author of “Things Fall Apart” portrayed the complexities of traditional African society, including polygamy. His literary works often explore cultural norms and their impact on individuals and communities.
3. Kwame Nkrumah: Ghana’s first president and a key figure in the African independence movement, Nkrumah emphasized modernization and progress. Although he didn’t directly oppose polygamy, his vision for a united and forward-looking Africa implied a departure from certain traditional practices.
4. Nelson Mandela: The iconic anti-apartheid revolutionary and former South African president didn’t explicitly speak against polygamy. However, his commitment to equality, justice, and reconciliation suggests a broader perspective that transcends cultural norms.
5. Wole Soyinka: The Nigerian playwright, poet, and Nobel laureate has critiqued various aspects of African society, including polygamy. His works often challenge entrenched beliefs and encourage critical thinking.

Remember that these figures represent diverse viewpoints, and their stances on polygamy may have indirectly questioned or challenged the practice.

THE FIRST WIFE

The first wife is usually the victim of an unplanned polygamous marriage initiated by the man who told her she was his priceless jewel, and he would love no one except her, and one day she wakes up only to see that her husband as impregnated someone else and that person is moving in as the second wife.

Or, due to a few marital misunderstandings, the husband takes it so far as to suddenly bring in another woman as his wife, such a shock is something one can never wish for another.

Some persons still do not get this, ok, it is like this; her husband wakes up one day and surprises her with his new wife without prior discussion, with no actual reasons apart from excuses such as she doesn't listen to him anymore, or they always have misunderstanding, now after such a surprise, he then expect her to be good with his action, to not disagree, and to accept the new wife into the family. If you ask me, I will tell you the truth, such is disruptive to the one woman you once claimed to fall in love with.

Such a woman in this situation may have given that man up to four children, males and females, then along the line in their relationship they may have had a few misunderstandings which they could have settled amongst themselves, but they did not.

It starts like this: after her last childbirth, her man would seem to withdraw sexually from her, which eventually brings down her mode, making her feel this inferiority complex, and all those negative feelings people feel when they shame them or look down on their appearance, making her feel bad about herself, like she is no longer attractive, at that point she gets scared of losing him.

As time goes on, he continued to do things that makes her sad, like spending more time with his friends and not coming home after work or, returning late, these can cause issues which he will not sort out completely, now, at that moment she starts to feel bad about herself, like the man who once loved her deeply and passionately has withdrawn because she no longer appears as charming as she used to. Gradually their misunderstanding grew which made them argue on every single thing there is, it felt to her as though they had lost their communication, like they cannot hear each other, and cannot agree on anything.

That continued until one cool day her supposed husband returned home earlier from work just to surprise her by introducing a pregnant lady as his second wife.

This is the reality most women find themselves in today's marriages. Before you celebrate men who go into polygamy, first ask them what happened to their first wife, and how did she take it?

I see some people claiming that polygamy was done by their forefathers and so they too will, well, at least I have explained why our ancestors did it, now we can all ask ourselves why our modern men are doing it and let us check if their reasons are as justified as those of our ancestors.

Before you clap for that man who married seven wives, first of all feels for the women he is caging and enslaving in the name of marriage. Those women also had aspirations, they also had talents, and they also had positive understanding of the political sections of our societies, they also had passion for various things too, but today we have made it seem like their passion is making babies and serving as a wife to some man who doesn't understand the effect of his actions on another person.

So, always ask questions about how the first wife feels about the whole idea. Ask them if they had previous agreement with their first wife, most of these men's ideas on gender are mostly rusty, some believe since they are men, they can do anything they want to do and their women must have nothing to say about that except to accept their decisions as final, why? Well, because he is the man.

These men have got everything they seek from a woman, they have kids, a home, a good respective woman, the only issue with them is the lack of contentment. They are not satisfied,

I said something on our previous article on lovers tips, I talked about love, and lust in details, you see, many people got married out of lust, in this case some men got married out of lust, and when their wife gets older or gets those stripes on her skin due to childbirth, they look for excuses then zoom off to getting themselves a younger woman for marriage, pitiful as it seems, yet it happens every day.

Nowadays, their first wife would give them male child and a female child, she would be hardworking and active in bed, still the man would go out there to get in another wife with little or no excuses.

Do you know that there is no smoke without fire? A time comes in every relationship, when misunderstandings occur, so, when that happens, running away or getting a new wife is never always the solution, this is why i urge every young couples today to verify within themselves and be sure if their partner is truly in love with them, and if they too love their partner cos when that time comes, only love can help the day.

By properly studying such kinds of situation, it became very clear to me that; in our world today men from various African races supports polygamy only to justify their cheating behaviors, nothing more, not because they are polygamous in nature as they claim, or anything close to that, they are just unable to control themselves, they are unable to learn how to live with a lady, knowing that they cannot control her totally and sometimes they need to listen to her, because she is a human being too, sometimes they need to tolerate certain actions from her, and also, discipline their sexual urges whenever they go out there after a fight with their wife, so to avoid seeing someone else who may (at that moment) appear better and more sweeter than their wife.

KNIGHT FREDEL (POLYGAMY TODAY: ARE MEN POLYGAMOUS IN NATURE) (C) 2024

Polygamy in Africa is a many-sided topic, and women’s feelings about the situation may vary significantly based on cultural context, personal experiences, and individual perspectives. 

Now, let’s explore some common sentiments:

1. Mixed Views:
   • Acceptance: Some women embrace polygamy as a cultural norm and accept their roles within a polygamous marriage. They may appreciate the extended family structure and the support network it provides.
   • Resignation: Others may feel resigned to their fate due to societal expectations or economic dependence. They endure polygamy because it’s ingrained in their upbringing.
2. Challenges and Struggles:
   • Emotional Turmoil: Many women experience emotional challenges. Sharing a husband can lead to jealousy, insecurity, and feelings of inadequacy.
   • Competition: Wives may compete for their husband’s attention, resources, and affection.
   • Unequal Power Dynamics: Polygamy often reinforces unequal power dynamics, with the husband holding more authority.
3. Economic Considerations:
   • Financial Strain: Managing multiple households can be financially demanding. Some wives struggle to make ends meet.
   • Dependency: Women may rely on their husband’s income, making them vulnerable if he decides to take additional wives.
4. Social Stigma and Isolation:
   • Judgement: Polygamous wives sometimes face judgement from others, especially in urban areas where monogamy is more common.
   • Isolation: The hierarchical structure of polygamous families can lead to isolation among co-wives.
5. Health and Well-Being:
   • Health Risks: Sharing a husband increases the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Some women worry about their health.
   • Emotional Health: The emotional toll of polygamy affects mental well-being.
6. Children’s Welfare:
   • Sibling Bonds: While children from different wives often form close bonds, they may also experience rivalry.
   • Resource Allocation: Wives compete for resources for their children.
7. Educational Opportunities:
   • Limited Education: Some women prioritize their children’s education over their own due to limited resources.
   • Empowerment: Educated women may challenge polygamy and advocate for their rights.
8. Religious Perspectives:
   • Acceptance or Resistance: Depending on religious beliefs, women may accept polygamy as ordained or resist it.
   • Seeking Spiritual Guidance: Some women turn to religious leaders for guidance.
9. Generational Shifts:
   • Changing Attitudes: Younger generations often question traditional norms. Some women reject polygamy outright.
   • Urbanization and Education: Urbanization and education contribute to shifting views.
10. Agency and Choice:
    • Agency: Some women actively choose polygamy, negotiate terms, and assert their rights.
    • Desire for Monogamy: Others long for monogamous relationships but lack the autonomy to change their circumstances.

IN SUMMARY

First of all, this magazine platform isn’t about some news or article presenting findings, yes, we do present findings too but it is an online magazine created for the publication of awakening and spiritual enlightenment for your personal growth, it is a home of arcane knowledge basically on African historical facts, spirituality and religious exposé along with many more interesting facts about the mysteries of life in general. Therefore, you must know that most of these facts are not just my personal knowledge, they are findings hidden from the present Africans by those who wants to remain in control. It includes few of my spiritual findings through spiritual consultations, and through contacts with the memories of our great ancestors.

So, do not expect some open presentation of histories and findings alone, I always will include my advice and teachings on what I see as acceptable by those who came before us, by the pure spiritual beings and guardians of this realm, I shall include extras and exclusives on romance and mystical knowledge as long as they are in vibes and harmony with nature and its universal principles. All that is to help make this world a better place for you and I, our children, and our children-children.

Though, what I write here isn't an enforcement of knowledge on you or anyone, that is why you can either accept them all, some, or maybe just reject everything and toss them into the trash cane, what you do with it is always your call. It is just like I usually say; the choice is always yours to make at the end of the day.

It is important for you to note that; I, Knight Fredel, is a spiritual and mystery teacher, and so you can always count on me if truly you seek pure and undiluted enlightenment, or spiritual guides. 

SEE ALSO: SEX SPIRITS, WET DREAMS, AND THE SACRED ART OF SEXUAL INTIMACY; VOL. 1 – By Knight Fredel

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In regard to today's issue, polygamy was never a cultural ideology, or a trait that men possess, it was and continues to be an idea that helped resolve certain problems in the society or families. Historically, polygamy was only resorted to as a solution to a particular issue when it was necessary. 

Every man out there should know that by unexpectedly bringing another wife into your home is an insult and a total disregard to your first wife and her children, your children, she is someone you once made to feel as though she alone rocks your world, now how does that sound? Women's feelings matter just as much as men's. The same advice applies to some women as well, but the men started the trend. Women are not commodities you can use and dump whenever you feel like.

I already said this, but I will repeat it again; Marriage is not a walk in the park, it isn't the usual dating, it is more than that, before you go into one, you must be prepared for it. The religion and fashion choices of your spouse must be tolerated, her hobbies must also be your hobbies, you must learn as a man to resolve misunderstandings immediately, don't wait for the next day. Make her your best friend.

If truly you really want to have a polygamous family, then you must let your wife know this before the wedding, tell her the kind of taste you have so she can weigh her options. This proves that you respect her opinion, always make sure the both of you are on the same page. Be ready to compromise and make adjustments if necessary. Finally, don't forget to have patience and understanding, it is not an easy thing to ask a woman to marry you and at the same time letting her expect another woman whom you will also make your wife in a time coming.

Next, stop the habit of cheating on your spouse, if you do this while you are dating, do not let it repeat in marriage, cos' cheating in marriages are the reasons 70% of the polygamous marriages today currently exist, if the man hadn't cheated, there would have been no second wife, this was already explained earlier. 

Although, I am of the opinion that if you are dating someone, whether in a serious relationship or not, never cheat at all, focus on your present relationship because old habit dies hard, if you cheat on your fiancé before marriage, it is likely that you will continue to cheat on your spouse after marriage, unless you have made a conscious effort to change your behavior.

Countless innocent children have been killed by ambitious women who were somehow brought into the family as the second or third wives, whom out of jealousy, killed some of the kids belonging to the first or second wife. As a man, do you really want to put your children in such a position? 

Many first wives out there have been killed or treated unfairly because of the new wife which only came into the family because the man went on to cheat on his wife, do you really want to place your first wife in such a situation where she will become a target to be eliminated by your new wife which to you may appear so innocent and lovely? 

Some people would say that some of these new wives have enchanted the minds of the man through voodoo, but 60% of such cases are not true, instead they were the works of foolish decisions by the man.

It’s never worth it to bring a woman into the family no matter how attractive or desirable she may seem. The risk is too high, and the consequences can be devastating. It is important to think long and hard before deciding to take on a second wife. Make sure you really did need another wife, and make sure it is for the right reasons. If it is, then take the time to get to know her and make sure she is a good woman. Make sure at the end of the day you will still be able to provide your first wife with the love and respect she deserves. Finally, be open and honest about your decisions beforehand. Well, that would be easier if you are getting that second wife for the right reasons.

Women need to be respected, polygamy in Africa is not the solution to your problems. There are women who find fulfilment within polygamous unions, so if truly that is your thing, then do it with such a person who shares the same ideas and understanding with you.

NOTE: Encouragement for gender equality, education, and economic empowerment plays a crucial role in shaping women’s perspectives and challenging traditional norms. Respect all women as you would respect your fellow men.

And finally, men are not, and have never been polygamous in nature. Do your own research and check my points with an open mind then you will see the truth in it. Truth is not hard to spot unless your mind is not there, or you just don't want to know because your mind is made up to choose the narration that favors your interest.

Please like, react and share, your opinions will also be greatly appreciated.

Blessed be.

KNIGHT FREDEL - Your Mystery Teacher…

Although, I am of the opinion that if you are dating someone, whether in a serious relationship or not, never cheat at all, focus on your present relationship because old habit dies hard, if you cheat on your fiancé before marriage, it is likely that you will continue to cheat even after marriage, unless you have made a conscious effort to change your behavior.

KNIGHT FREDEL